🏡 Rights & responsibilities · #236

As we grow older, our intimacy is changing. Does this mean our closeness is over?

Intimacy changes form as we age, but true closeness can grow deeper rather than end. Changes in the body and in energy are natural; accept them together without shame or disappointment. Allah has placed between husband and wife “love and mercy” (Surah ar-Rum 30:21), and that love does not depend on youth alone. Enjoy the kinds of closeness that suit your situation now: talking, walking together, caring for each other. If a health problem is getting in the way, see a doctor, because much can be helped. Couples who grow old together with gratitude keep a beautiful tranquillity. See intimacy etiquette.

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Surah ar-Rum 30:21

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This answer is general reference, not a fatwa. For your situation, consult the religious affairs office, a Syarie lawyer or your state Syariah Court.

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