💰 Family finances · #67

My husband keeps his finances completely secret from me as his second wife. Should I be worried?

A husband is not obliged to disclose every detail of his finances, but he is obliged to provide your maintenance (nafkah) clearly and sufficiently. So distinguish between reasonable financial privacy and a neglect of rights that hides negligence. Discuss your household needs openly and ask for certainty about regular maintenance, rather than investigating his every expense. If you depend on him entirely, negotiate a fixed monthly allowance so you can plan. Secrecy that causes worry should be asked about kindly, not assumed to be bad. If your maintenance is truly being neglected behind that secrecy, consult the religious affairs office. Reasonable openness builds trust. See maintenance.

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This answer is general reference, not a fatwa. For your situation, consult the religious affairs office, a Syarie lawyer or your state Syariah Court.

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