🤝 Existing wife & prospective wife · #149

My own parents reject and are ashamed of my decision to become a second wife. What should I do?

Families who object are usually driven by worry for you, not simply a wish to make things difficult. Listen to their concerns respectfully, because they fear you will be hurt or your rights neglected. Explain that your marriage is valid and was carried out properly, and show through the calm of your life that the decision was carefully thought through. Avoid arguing or cutting ties; give them time to accept it. Keep honouring your parents, because that is an obligation that never lapses. If your husband is willing, let him show good character to your family so trust can be built. Time and evidence of good treatment usually soften their hearts. See prospective second wife.

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This answer is general reference, not a fatwa. For your situation, consult the religious affairs office, a Syarie lawyer or your state Syariah Court.

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