🤝 Existing wife & prospective wife · #151

My husband's children from his first wife reject me and are cold towards me. How do I deal with this?

Stepchildren's rejection usually comes from loyalty to their mother and fear of losing their father, not personal hatred of you. Do not force affection or try to take their mother's place; give them time and space. Show consistent kindness without expecting an immediate return, and respect their relationship with their own mother. Avoid using them as a source of information about the other household or forcing them to choose. Ask your husband to explain to the children that respecting you does not lessen his love for them. Bridges between hearts take time, sometimes years; stay gentle and patient. See relationships between co-wives.

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This answer is general reference, not a fatwa. For your situation, consult the religious affairs office, a Syarie lawyer or your state Syariah Court.

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