🚪 Divorce, ʿiddah & rujuk · #77

As a single mother I am exhausted from carrying the roles of both mother and father. What can help?

Your exhaustion is real and not a sign of weakness; carrying two people's work alone truly wears out body and soul. Stop chasing perfection and set priorities: a few things are a must, others can wait. Build a support network of family, neighbours and friends, and learn to ask for help without guilt. Plan a little rest time for yourself every week, however brief, because you also need refilling. Look after your sleep, meals and health, because your children depend on you. Draw close to Allah for inner strength. See mental health.

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