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I sacrifice a lot for my stepchildren but am not appreciated at all. I am tired. What should I do?

Your tiredness and hurt are valid, and you have the right to protect your own heart while continuing to do good. Children, especially those still grieving, are often slow to recognise adults' sacrifices. Do not measure your worth by their thanks, because Allah sees every hidden kindness. For now, lower your expectations of a return and seek support from your husband, who should acknowledge your efforts openly. Make time for yourself, rest and worship, so you do not run out of energy. If feeling unappreciated weighs on your soul, talk to a counsellor. See mental health.
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This answer is general reference, not a fatwa. For your situation, consult the religious affairs office, a Syarie lawyer or your state Syariah Court.

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