🏡 Rights & responsibilities · #223

Living with my in-laws, almost all the housework falls on me alone. What should I do?

Helping in your in-laws' home is good, but an unfair and ongoing burden should be discussed, not bottled up. Start with a good intention: serving your husband's family earns reward and brings hearts closer. But if you are so exhausted that your own rights and your household are neglected, that is a sign the load needs balancing. Talk to your husband first so he understands and supports you, then kindly look for a fairer division of tasks with the other members of the house. Ask for help without a tone of blame, and appreciate anyone who pitches in. Look after your health and rest, because sustained service needs energy that is cared for. See responsibilities of husband and wife.

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