🏡 Rights & responsibilities · #183

Is it true that love fades after years of marriage, or can it become deeper?

The early thrill does settle, but it can be replaced by a deeper, calmer and stronger love. Allah has placed between spouses “love and mercy” (Surah ar-Rum 30:21), and that mercy matures with time, trials faced together and accumulated memories. This kind of love is nurtured through actions, not waited for as a feeling. Keep giving attention, praise and affectionate touch even after a long time together. Celebrate the history you have built together. Couples who keep investing find the tenth year sweeter than the first. Do not believe the myth that love must fade. See everyday adab.

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Surah ar-Rum 30:21

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This answer is general reference, not a fatwa. For your situation, consult the religious affairs office, a Syarie lawyer or your state Syariah Court.

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