After many years, we are more like housemates than friends. How do we rebuild our friendship?

Friendship in marriage is revived through interest in your spouse's inner world, not just the outward running of the home. Start asking deeper questions than ‘have you eaten?’, such as what has been worrying or exciting them lately. Share your own thoughts too, so it is a two-way conversation. Rediscover the things you used to enjoy together and do them now and then. Laughing together and recalling early memories brings back closeness. Make it an ongoing effort, not a one-off project. A true friend at home is a blessing that makes the long years feel light. See communication & emotions.