My jealousy has become an obsession: I keep thinking about and checking up on my spouse. What should I do?

When jealousy turns into thoughts that repeat endlessly, it torments you without solving anything. Going over suspicions and checking endlessly strengthens anxiety rather than easing it. Set a limit for yourself: one time to discuss your worries with your spouse, not a whole day of investigating. Redirect your energy to beneficial things, dhikr, and healthy relationships. When the thought comes, acknowledge it and let it go, rather than entertaining it. If it is already disrupting your work, sleep and daily peace, this is a sign to get help from a counsellor or doctor. A mind under control gives back room for love. See mental health.

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This answer is general reference, not a fatwa. For your situation, consult the religious affairs office, a Syarie lawyer or your state Syariah Court.

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