🕊️ Conflict & resolution · #139

My spouse forbids me from seeing friends and family out of jealousy. Is this normal?

Cutting you off from friends and family is not a sign of love, but a form of coercive control that must be taken seriously. Healthy jealousy does not isolate you from the people who love you. Isolation like this is often an early step of non-physical abuse, and it makes you more and more dependent and vulnerable. Try to discuss the cause of their worry calmly, but do not sacrifice your rightful family ties. If you feel unsafe or are threatened when you object, call the police on 999 immediately, and contact Talian Kasih 15999 for advice and support. You have the right to get help. See domestic violence.

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This answer is general reference, not a fatwa. For your situation, consult the religious affairs office, a Syarie lawyer or your state Syariah Court.

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