🕊️ Conflict & resolution · #111

I am careful with money; my spouse likes to spend. How do we avoid arguing about money?

Different spending habits are normal; the key is a system you both agree on, not changing your spouse's personality. Sit down together and agree on a reasonable budget, a shared portion and a personal portion for each of you. Understand the reasons behind your spouse's habits, whether it is fear of going without or wanting to enjoy life. Avoid judging or monitoring every ringgit, because that breeds secrets. Set a limit above which big purchases need both of you to agree. Respect your differences while keeping the family's financial goals in view. Money managed with mutual understanding rarely breaks up a household. See family finances.

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This answer is general reference, not a fatwa. For your situation, consult the religious affairs office, a Syarie lawyer or your state Syariah Court.

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