🏡 Rights & responsibilities · #162

Our mornings before work and school are chaotic, and we often end up fighting. How can we calm them down?

Most morning fights come from rushing, so sort things out the night before, not in the moment of panic. Prepare clothes, bags and a simple breakfast at night so mornings are more relaxed. Wake up a little earlier than the children to settle yourself and pray Subuh before the bustle begins. Divide the morning tasks clearly so there is no overlap or misunderstanding. Watch your tone of voice even when rushed, because children read the mood of the morning as the mood of their day. Start the day with a prayer and a smile, not shouting. See everyday adab.

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This answer is general reference, not a fatwa. For your situation, consult the religious affairs office, a Syarie lawyer or your state Syariah Court.

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