🤝 Existing wife & prospective wife · #57
Since my husband took another wife I cannot sleep, have lost my appetite and cry often. What should I do?
These are signs of serious emotional distress and need care just like a physical illness; talk to someone you trust and get mental health support.
Allah says He does not burden a soul beyond its capacity (al-Baqarah 2:286), and hearts find rest in remembering Him (ar-Raʿd 13:28) — prayer and remembrance help, but do not replace treatment when it is needed. Steps: keep basic routines of sleep, meals and prayer; cut down on watching your co-wife's social media; spend time with supportive family and friends; and see a doctor at a health clinic or a counsellor. If there are thoughts of self-harm, call Befrienders KL 03-7627 2929 or the HEAL line 15555 at once. Tell your husband the real effect on you; he is responsible for being fair and treating you well. See Mental health.
Allah says He does not burden a soul beyond its capacity (al-Baqarah 2:286), and hearts find rest in remembering Him (ar-Raʿd 13:28) — prayer and remembrance help, but do not replace treatment when it is needed. Steps: keep basic routines of sleep, meals and prayer; cut down on watching your co-wife's social media; spend time with supportive family and friends; and see a doctor at a health clinic or a counsellor. If there are thoughts of self-harm, call Befrienders KL 03-7627 2929 or the HEAL line 15555 at once. Tell your husband the real effect on you; he is responsible for being fair and treating you well. See Mental health.
Sources
Surah al-Baqarah 2:286Surah ar-Ra'd 13:28Surah an-Nisa' 4:19