What are the signs that I am starting to lean towards one wife without realising?

Leaning to one side usually starts subtly: you look for reasons to stay longer in one home, put off one wife's needs, or feel put out when her turn comes. Notice too if you are quicker to anger in one home, or save good news to share with only one. Early awareness lets you correct course before it becomes injustice. Ask yourself honestly, and ask your wives separately. Correct it with actions, not just promises. If you find it hard to be honest with yourself, a counsellor or someone you trust can help you see. See household system.