🧭 Preparation & choosing a spouse · #156

My akad nikah is only a few weeks away. How do I prepare spiritually at the last moment?

Slow down for a moment; amid the busy wedding preparations, set aside time every day to prepare your heart. Renew your repentance and seek forgiveness (istighfar), because you want to enter a new phase with a clean soul. Keep praying early in the prayer time even when wedding matters demand attention. Make plenty of dua for your marriage, including the prayer taught by the Quran: “Our Lord, grant us from among our wives and our offspring a comfort to our eyes” (Surah al-Furqan 25:74). Ask forgiveness from your parents and siblings, and thank them for all they have done. Avoid quarrelling over small wedding details, because they are worth nothing compared with the blessing of that day. On the night before the akad, sleep early. See the right intention for marriage.

Sources

Surah al-Furqan 25:74

← PreviousI am the type who bottles things up and is rarely direct. How do I change before marrying?

Related questions

I know I am quick to anger. How do I improve before I marry?This awareness is already a valuable first step; use it to build new habits before there is a spouse who bears th…I am a convert (mualaf). How do I involve my non-Muslim parents in my akad?Invite them with full respect and explain what will happen, because they are still your parents. Many non-Muslim parents fe…My wife has died. When may I marry again, and what about my children's feelings?A man has no waiting period; he may marry at any time after his wife’s death. But the right time depends on your and yo…I am the type who bottles things up and is rarely direct. How do I change before marrying?Being quiet or keeping things in is not a flaw, but you need to find a comfortable way to tell your spouse what…I grew up with a very harsh father. How do I make sure I do not repeat the same pattern in my own home?Family patterns can be broken, and your awareness now is the most important beginning. We tend to repeat what we ar…I am the eldest child and used to making decisions for my siblings. How do I adjust to sharing decisions after marriage?Your ability to lead is an asset, as long as you learn to move from deciding alone to deciding together. Allah …

This answer is general reference, not a fatwa. For your situation, consult the religious affairs office, a Syarie lawyer or your state Syariah Court.

Comments or feedback

Read only by the MYPolygyny administrator — never published.

About Us · Ask · Site Map · Privacy · Editorial policy · Disclaimer