My voice is often raised at home even when I am not angry. How do I soften it?

Tone of voice conveys feelings more strongly than words, and a harsh tone hurts without you realising it. Allah said to His Prophet: “Had you been harsh and hard-hearted, they would have dispersed from around you” (Surah Ali 'Imran 3:159). Start by noticing when your voice rises, usually when you are tired or in a hurry. Take a breath and lower your voice before speaking about everyday things. Ask your spouse to give you a gentle signal when your tone rises. A home with calm voices feels safer for everyone. See everyday adab.

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Surah Ali 'Imran 3:159

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This answer is general reference, not a fatwa. For your situation, consult the religious affairs office, a Syarie lawyer or your state Syariah Court.

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