🧒 Raising children (tarbiyah) · #211

I feel sad celebrating my child's achievements, such as important school days, without my spouse there. What should I do?

Your presence and pride already mean a great deal to your child; celebrate the moment fully even though you are on your own. Feeling sad as you think of your absent spouse is natural; allow it without letting it rob the day of its joy. Take photos, praise your child's effort, and make a simple celebration to remember. Invite family or friends along so that the atmosphere is livelier and your child feels supported. If your spouse has passed away, say lovingly that he or she would surely be proud. Focus on the child in front of you, not the empty chair. See educating the family.

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This answer is general reference, not a fatwa. For your situation, consult the religious affairs office, a Syarie lawyer or your state Syariah Court.

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