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Should a husband keep a written rota schedule?

Keeping a clear rota schedule, even a simple one, greatly helps a husband uphold justice and avoid misunderstanding. Human memory easily leans to one side without realising it, so a written record becomes an honest witness of whose day it is. Set an agreed cycle pattern, mark swaps or missed days, and plan early for festive days and holidays. This transparency calms all the wives' hearts because they see justice, not just hear about it. Allah commands: “stand out firmly for justice, as witnesses to Allah, even as against yourselves” (Surah an-Nisa' 4:135). Review the schedule from time to time. See the rota in practice.

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Surah an-Nisa' 4:135
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This answer is general reference, not a fatwa. For your situation, consult the religious affairs office, a Syarie lawyer or your state Syariah Court.

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