🏡 Rights & responsibilities · #104

My husband likes to bring guests home without telling me. How do I discuss it?

Honouring guests is indeed Sunnah, but the burden should not fall on the wife alone without warning. Discuss it when there are no guests, not in front of them, so that no one feels embarrassed. Agree on a simple rule: give advance notice, even an hour, and the husband helps prepare and tidy up too. Remind each other that hospitality need not be lavish; a drink and a few snacks are enough to honour guests. If guests come often, keep a stock of simple food that is easy to serve. With mutual understanding, your home stays open without wearing anyone out. See everyday adab.

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This answer is general reference, not a fatwa. For your situation, consult the religious affairs office, a Syarie lawyer or your state Syariah Court.

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