🏡 Rights & responsibilities · #209

My in-laws come to our house unannounced at any time. How do I set boundaries without giving offence?

You can ask for advance notice respectfully; setting a boundary does not mean rejecting them. Begin by stressing how much you value their visits, then present the request as a family need, not a complaint. It is best for your husband to tell his own parents, so it is not misread as rudeness from a daughter-in-law. Offer a middle way, for example a quick call before coming. Make sure the boundary is reasonable and that you still open the door warmly when they arrive. Gentleness in how it is said is the difference between protecting your space and cutting family ties. See in-laws.

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This answer is general reference, not a fatwa. For your situation, consult the religious affairs office, a Syarie lawyer or your state Syariah Court.

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