🤍 Character & conduct between spouses · #13
How much of a spouse's weaknesses may be shared with one's own parents?
Distinguish between asking for help and exposing faults.
The Prophet ﷺ said: whoever believes in Allah and the Last Day, let him speak good or remain silent. Al-Hujurat 49:12 forbids backbiting with a stark parable. Recounting every quarrel to your own family turns two people who disagree into two families at enmity, and after the two of you have made peace, that enmity still remains. What is permitted, and necessary, is seeking advice or help when there is danger or harm — from people who can resolve it, not from everyone.
The Prophet ﷺ said: whoever believes in Allah and the Last Day, let him speak good or remain silent. Al-Hujurat 49:12 forbids backbiting with a stark parable. Recounting every quarrel to your own family turns two people who disagree into two families at enmity, and after the two of you have made peace, that enmity still remains. What is permitted, and necessary, is seeking advice or help when there is danger or harm — from people who can resolve it, not from everyone.
Sources
Sahih al-Bukhari 6018Surah al-Hujurat 49:12