🏡 Rights & responsibilities · #77

Since giving birth, our relationship has felt distant. How do we bring it back?

The period after giving birth is full of exhaustion and hormonal change; start with closeness that does not pressure. The husband can take over part of the baby care and housework so that his wife can rest. Talking, holding hands and sweet words rebuild a sense of closeness without pressure to be intimate before the wife is ready. Watch for signs of postnatal depression, such as prolonged sadness, lack of interest in the baby or hopelessness; if they appear, see a doctor promptly. See mental health.

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This answer is general reference, not a fatwa. For your situation, consult the religious affairs office, a Syarie lawyer or your state Syariah Court.

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