🏡 Rights & responsibilities · #350

I have high career ambitions but worry the family will be neglected. How do I balance them?

Ambition and family are not enemies; what is needed is clear priorities and boundaries that are kept. Decide what is non-negotiable, such as dinner together or weekends for the family, and protect it from work. Talk with your spouse about busy seasons and quiet seasons so that they understand and support you. Choose career opportunities that are in line with your family's values, not just rank and salary. Review every few months whether the balance is still being kept, and be brave enough to adjust it. Remember, no outside success can replace a neglected home. See duties of husband and wife.

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This answer is general reference, not a fatwa. For your situation, consult the religious affairs office, a Syarie lawyer or your state Syariah Court.

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