⚖️ Polygyny: rulings & justice · #78

We have just started living in polygyny. How do we set up the rota system from the start?

Start by setting a clear, agreed cycle pattern from the beginning, before problems have a chance to arise. Discuss whether it will be one night per household or longer periods depending on distance and work, and make sure each wife's total time is equal. Decide from the start how festive days, emergencies and swaps will be handled so there are no disputes later. Write the arrangement down and share it openly with all the wives. The Prophet ﷺ divided the rota among his wives fairly and consistently, and that is the example to follow. Review these arrangements when circumstances change. For specific advice on your situation, refer to the religious office. See the rota in practice.

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This answer is general reference, not a fatwa. For your situation, consult the religious affairs office, a Syarie lawyer or your state Syariah Court.

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