We feel embarrassed to get marriage counselling. Should we go?

Getting counselling is not a sign of failure, but a sign that you value your marriage enough to improve it. Just like seeing a doctor when you are ill, getting help for your relationship is a wise step. A good counsellor helps both of you listen and understand each other more clearly. Going early, before problems grow, is more effective than waiting until things are serious. Choose a counsellor who respects your religious values. Do not let embarrassment stand in the way of healing. Agree to try a few sessions before judging the results. Many couples come out stronger after getting help. See counselling.

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This answer is general reference, not a fatwa. For your situation, consult the religious affairs office, a Syarie lawyer or your state Syariah Court.

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