🏡 Rights & responsibilities · #263

When and how should we share the news of a pregnancy with family and the wider public?

When and how to share the news of a pregnancy is up to the two of you; there is no one right way for everyone. Many couples choose to tell close family first and wait until the pregnancy is more stable before announcing it widely, so things are easier if something happens. This is not hiding out of shame, but protecting peace of mind. Avoid superstitious beliefs about mentioning or hiding the news to ward off misfortune; prayer and trust in Allah are enough. If you worry about the evil eye, pray for the baby's protection without excessive anxiety. Celebrate this blessing with gratitude, not with the pressure of comparing yourselves with others. See everyday adab.

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This answer is general reference, not a fatwa. For your situation, consult the religious affairs office, a Syarie lawyer or your state Syariah Court.

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