🏡 Rights & responsibilities · #248

We are struggling to have children and it has made intimacy feel like a stressful chore. What can help?

When intimacy turns into nothing more than a medical schedule, it loses its warmth, so bring love back into it. Get help from a doctor or specialist to understand your situation and the options available, and face this trial as a team. Do not blame each other; difficulty conceiving can come from either side and it is Allah's decree. Make time for closeness that is not aimed at conceiving, so the relationship does not feel pressured. Keep praying and thinking well of Allah. Emotional support between husband and wife is very important throughout this journey. See fertility.

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This answer is general reference, not a fatwa. For your situation, consult the religious affairs office, a Syarie lawyer or your state Syariah Court.

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