🤝 Existing wife & prospective wife · #67
I am a second wife from abroad and feel isolated in Malaysia. How can I get support?
Make sure your marriage and your pass are valid, build your own support network, and know where to get help if problems arise.
Allah made people into nations so they might know one another (al-Hujurat 49:13), and the Prophet ﷺ commanded respect for strangers and guests. Steps: make sure the marriage is registered with the Syariah Court's permission and you hold a valid spouse pass, because without them your rights to maintenance, children and housing are hard to defend; keep copies of your passport, marriage certificate and key documents somewhere safe; join classes at the mosque or women's groups; learn Malay; and keep in touch with your family and your country's embassy. If your husband threatens your immigration status or keeps your documents, that may be abuse; call Talian Kasih 15999. See the question on spouse passes.
Allah made people into nations so they might know one another (al-Hujurat 49:13), and the Prophet ﷺ commanded respect for strangers and guests. Steps: make sure the marriage is registered with the Syariah Court's permission and you hold a valid spouse pass, because without them your rights to maintenance, children and housing are hard to defend; keep copies of your passport, marriage certificate and key documents somewhere safe; join classes at the mosque or women's groups; learn Malay; and keep in touch with your family and your country's embassy. If your husband threatens your immigration status or keeps your documents, that may be abuse; call Talian Kasih 15999. See the question on spouse passes.