💰 Family finances · #116

I found out my spouse has been hiding a large debt from me. What do I do?

Feeling betrayed is natural, but settling the debt and rebuilding trust takes calm, not an explosion of anger. Choose a calm time to understand the cause and the real amount without rushing to judge. Ask for full transparency: list all the debts together so that nothing stays hidden. Draw up a realistic repayment plan and agree that from now on big financial decisions are made by the two of you. If the debt comes from an addiction such as gambling, treatment must be given priority at the same time. Get accredited credit counselling if the burden is heavy. Trust is restored through consistent transparency, step by step, not overnight. See family finances.

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This answer is general reference, not a fatwa. For your situation, consult the religious affairs office, a Syarie lawyer or your state Syariah Court.

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