🧭 Region & Middle East · #94

Grandparents in two countries compete for time with their grandchildren every time we are on holiday. How do we stay fair?

Fair does not always mean equal every time; it can mean taking turns honestly and planning from the start. Discuss how to divide the holidays with your spouse before telling either side of any plan, so that you speak with one voice. For example, the year-end school holidays in one country and the Eid holidays in the other, then swap the following year. Fill the time apart with regular video calls between the grandchildren and grandparents. If one of the grandparents is frail, give them priority and explain the reason kindly to the other side. Do not let the grandchildren feel guilty about a love that is being competed for. See in-laws.

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