We often argue since living abroad, and there is no family to act as a mediator. Where can we get help?

Help is still there even when family is far away: online Muslim counsellors, a trusted local imam, or a senior couple in the community. The pressures of life in a new place often show up as arguments, even though the cause is exhaustion and isolation. The Qur'an itself recommends mediators in disputes between husband and wife: “then appoint an arbitrator from the men's family and an arbitrator from the women's family” (Surah an-Nisa' 4:35). When family is far away, choose a mediator who is fair and can keep confidences. There are family counsellors in Malaysia, including through the state Islamic religious affairs office, who offer online sessions. Meanwhile, set rules for arguing: no shouting, no dragging up the past, and pause when voices start to rise. If arguments turn into violence, do not wait; get help from the local authorities and the Malaysian embassy immediately. See counselling.