🧭 Preparation & choosing a spouse · #146

I will live with my husband's family for a while after marrying. How do I prepare?

Discuss the rules and the length of stay with your future husband before the akad, because the best preparation is clear expectations. Ask practical things: which room will be your space as a couple, how housework will be divided, and who covers the grocery costs. Also make sure there is a clear date or condition for moving into your own home, so ‘for a while’ does not drag on without end. Get to know your husband's family early, including their daily routines and habits. Once you live together, bring a willingness to learn and help without being asked, but do not carry all the work alone. A wife has the right to housing that gives her privacy and peace, and the husband is responsible for ensuring it. See in-laws.

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This answer is general reference, not a fatwa. For your situation, consult the religious affairs office, a Syarie lawyer or your state Syariah Court.

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