🤝 Existing wife & prospective wife · #193

I want to get on well with my co-wife but am afraid of looking fake. What should I do?

Getting on well does not mean pretending to be close; it starts with not hurting each other, then grows honestly over time. You do not need to force yourself to become best friends straight away. Start with small, sincere things: giving salam, being polite, and not backbiting. Let the relationship develop naturally without pressure to look warm in front of others. Calm honesty is worth more than forced friendliness. If your heart has not yet reached the point of friendship, being fair and not wronging her is enough before Allah. Give yourself time. See co-wife relations.

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This answer is general reference, not a fatwa. For your situation, consult the religious affairs office, a Syarie lawyer or your state Syariah Court.

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