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My husband commutes daily from Johor to Singapore and comes home exhausted. How do we protect family time?

Protect the time you have even if it is short, because a little meaningful time is worth more than long, tired hours. A long daily commute does wear away energy and patience, and the Prophet ﷺ reminded: “indeed your body has a right over you... and your wife has a right over you” (Sahih al-Bukhari 5199). Set one small fixed routine, for example dinner together or a short chat before the children sleep. At weekends, plan one family activity that work matters cannot interrupt. Give your husband a moment to rest as soon as he gets home before heavy conversations begin, and the husband in turn should not leave all the household matters for the wife to carry. If the exhaustion drags on until it affects health or emotions, discuss options such as flexible working hours or moving closer. See families in Singapore.

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Sahih al-Bukhari 5199

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This answer is general reference, not a fatwa. For your situation, consult the religious affairs office, a Syarie lawyer or your state Syariah Court.

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