🏡 Rights & responsibilities · #271

My husband has just retired and is now at home all the time, and we have started to clash. What should we do?

The transition from work to retirement changes both of your routines, and some friction at first is normal. The husband loses his daily structure, while the wife may feel her space has been invaded. Talk openly and divide space and time: let each of you have your own affairs and time, not always side by side. Encourage your husband to find a meaningful new role, such as mosque activities or volunteering, so he does not lose direction. Share housework fairly according to the new situation. With adjustment, retirement becomes a stage of togetherness, not conflict. See communication & emotions.

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This answer is general reference, not a fatwa. For your situation, consult the religious affairs office, a Syarie lawyer or your state Syariah Court.

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