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Must parents obtain their daughter's consent before accepting a proposal?

Ya, persetujuan anak perempuan sangat penting, dan bagi janda ia wajib secara jelas.
Nabi ﷺ bersabda: "Janda tidak dinikahkan sehingga diminta pendapatnya (secara jelas), dan gadis tidak dinikahkan sehingga diminta izinnya." Apabila ditanya bagaimana izin gadis, baginda menjawab: "Diamnya." Khansa' binti Khidham yang dikahwinkan bapanya tanpa kerelaan telah mengadu, lalu Nabi ﷺ menolak nikah itu. Menerima pinangan bagi pihak anak tanpa bertanya boleh membawa pertunangan yang terpaksa diputuskan kemudian. Dalam undang-undang keluarga Islam di Malaysia, persetujuan kedua-dua pihak juga diperlukan untuk pendaftaran nikah. Lihat wali nikah.
Difference among the schools. The Shafi'i school allows a father or grandfather (wali mujbir) to marry off a virgin daughter without her permission under strict conditions, yet seeking her permission remains strongly recommended. The Hanafi school requires the consent of an adult woman.

Sources

Sahih al-Bukhari 5136Sahih Muslim, Kitab an-NikahSahih al-Bukhari 5138
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This answer is general reference, not a fatwa. For your situation, consult the religious affairs office, a Syarie lawyer or your state Syariah Court.

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