🕊️ Conflict & resolution · #132

Our fights sometimes make me physically afraid. Is this still a communication issue?

When a fight makes you fear for your safety, it is no longer a communication problem but a safety issue that must come first. Discussion techniques are not suitable where there are threats, hitting, or a sense of being threatened. If you are in danger now, call the police on 999 immediately. For advice and support, contact Talian Kasih on 15999; they can help you think through safe steps. Your safety and your children's comes before any effort to save the marriage. Talk to someone you trust, and get help from a counsellor or the authorities. You are not at fault for wanting to be safe. See trials in a marriage.

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This answer is general reference, not a fatwa. For your situation, consult the religious affairs office, a Syarie lawyer or your state Syariah Court.

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