I feel jealous when my spouse is close to friends of their own gender. Is that reasonable?

The feeling is understandable, but good friends of the same gender are a blessing for your spouse. Jealousy like this is often a sign that you feel you are getting too little time or attention. Rather than forbidding, state your needs clearly, for example 'I miss our time together at weekends.' Together, find a balance between family time and time with friends. If a friend is a bad influence, such as encouraging debt or neglecting prayer, discuss that specific matter calmly. See communication and emotions.

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This answer is general reference, not a fatwa. For your situation, consult the religious affairs office, a Syarie lawyer or your state Syariah Court.

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