What are examples of putting my spouse first in daily life?

Putting your spouse first (ithar) in small things is a simple sign of love with a big effect. For example, letting your spouse choose the food first, letting them rest while you still have energy, giving way on matters that do not involve principle, and helping without being asked. But ithar must go both ways. If only one person is always sacrificing, over time they will feel unappreciated; discuss this openly so the relationship stays balanced. See everyday adab.

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