How can my new spouse build a good relationship with my children?

The best role for a stepfather or stepmother is to be a loving, supportive adult, not to rush to replace the child's own mother or father. Encourage your new spouse to build trust through time, patience and genuine interest in the child's world. In the early stages, let the birth parent hold the disciplining role, while the new spouse becomes a trusted friend. Respect the child's memories of his original family and do not be jealous of them. Celebrate small steps, because relationships like this grow slowly. Islam honours kindness to children in one's care; such kindness is rewarded. With time and love, a sincere bond can form. See educating the family.