⚖️ Polygyny: rulings & justice · #62

A husband wants to hold a lavish reception for his second marriage. Is that appropriate?

A walimah for a second marriage is still a sunnah and good for announcing the marriage, but a large, showy event can hurt the first wife and her children; modesty fits better with justice and kindness.
The Prophet ﷺ told a man to hold a walimah even if only with one sheep (Sahih al-Bukhari 5167), showing that what matters is the announcement, not luxury. Allah forbids waste (al-Isra' 17:26–27) and commands kindness and justice (an-Nahl 16:90). Consider: does the cost affect the maintenance of the first wife and children; will it be posted widely so that the first wife's children are taunted by friends; and has the first wife been informed respectfully? A small event with close family and neighbours is enough, and the money saved is better used to secure the ability to support two households. See The wedding feast.

Sources

Sahih al-Bukhari 5167Surah al-Isra' 17:26Surah an-Nahl 16:90

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This answer is general reference, not a fatwa. For your situation, consult the religious affairs office, a Syarie lawyer or your state Syariah Court.

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