🏡 Rights & responsibilities · #56

A wife is a convert (mualaf). How can her relationship with her non-Muslim family of origin be kept up?

Islam requires kindness and devotion to parents even if they are not Muslim, as long as one is not told to do wrong; her husband should support that relationship.
Allah says of non-Muslim parents: do not obey them in associating partners with Allah, but keep company with them in this world kindly (Luqman 31:15), and Allah does not forbid kindness and fairness towards non-Muslims who do not fight us (al-Mumtahanah 60:8). Asma' bint Abi Bakr r.a. asked the Prophet ﷺ about her non-Muslim mother who came to visit her, and he told her to keep ties with her (Sahih al-Bukhari 2620). In practice: visit at family celebrations without joining religious rites; politely bring your own halal food; and let the children know their grandparents. A husband must not cut his wife off from her family. See Interfaith matters.

Sources

Surah Luqman 31:15Surah al-Mumtahanah 60:8Sahih al-Bukhari 2620

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This answer is general reference, not a fatwa. For your situation, consult the religious affairs office, a Syarie lawyer or your state Syariah Court.

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