🧒 Raising children (tarbiyah) · #131

I came across affectionate messages exchanged between my teenager and someone. What should I do?

How you react the first time is very important, because it decides whether he will stay honest with you. Avoid snatching the phone or shouting in front of others. Choose a time alone together and share your concern without re-reading every message to shame him. Explain that affectionate messages can lead to further things and damage his dignity. Discuss phone etiquette and set reasonable family rules, not spying. Teach him to turn down such attention politely. See digital & family.

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This answer is general reference, not a fatwa. For your situation, consult the religious affairs office, a Syarie lawyer or your state Syariah Court.

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