🧒 Raising children (tarbiyah) · #109

My child is getting more stubborn at this age. How do I stay firm without losing affection?

Firmness and love are not opposites; a child needs clear boundaries and a warm heart at the same time. Set a few important rules with reasonable consequences, then carry them out consistently and calmly, not according to your mood. Explain the reasons for the rules so that he understands, not just obeys out of fear. Give him choices in small matters so that he feels respected and resists less. Avoid shouting or belittling him; a raised voice teaches him fear, not remorse. Hug and comfort him after correcting him so that he knows the correction is about the behaviour, not a rejection of him. See educating the family.

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This answer is general reference, not a fatwa. For your situation, consult the religious affairs office, a Syarie lawyer or your state Syariah Court.

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