🤝 Existing wife & prospective wife · #40

What are the signs that a husband is not fit for polygyny?

The main sign is that he has already failed to be fair or to fulfil his responsibilities to his existing family. These include: the wife's and children's maintenance often in arrears; borrowing for basic needs; neglecting prayer and religious duties; a hot temper or having caused injury; hiding relationships and lying; or wanting to marry secretly abroad. Allah says: if you fear you will not be able to be fair, then (marry) only one. A prospective wife and her wali should weigh these signs honestly. See conditions for polygyny and two-household finances.

Sources

Surah an-Nisa' 4:3Act 303, s.23

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This answer is general reference, not a fatwa. For your situation, consult the religious affairs office, a Syarie lawyer or your state Syariah Court.

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