Every time my spouse opens up, I immediately offer solutions and they end up more upset. Why?

Sometimes your spouse only wants to be heard and understood, not handed a list of solutions. Rushing to fix things makes them feel their feelings are being pushed aside. Start by listening fully, then acknowledge their feelings: ‘It sounds like today was really heavy.’ Once they feel understood, ask whether they want your view or just someone to listen. That simple question can save a lot of misunderstanding before it grows. Men and women can both get this wrong; the key is to ask, not assume. See communication & emotions.

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This answer is general reference, not a fatwa. For your situation, consult the religious affairs office, a Syarie lawyer or your state Syariah Court.

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