I feel jealous thinking about my spouse's old love or former fiancé(e) before we married. What should I do?

Your spouse's past is over, and judging them for something before they knew you only poisons the present. Digging up and bringing up old stories again and again changes nothing, and in fact drives hearts apart. If your spouse has left it behind and is faithful to you, that is what matters. Avoid comparing or interrogating old details that bring no benefit. Focus on the relationship you are building now and your future together. If an old relationship is still continuing and is worrying, that is a current issue that should be discussed openly. Let go of what has passed for the sake of your own peace. See relationship psychology.

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This answer is general reference, not a fatwa. For your situation, consult the religious affairs office, a Syarie lawyer or your state Syariah Court.

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