My ex-husband wants to take our child to stay overnight at his home with his new wife. I am uncomfortable. Should I refuse?

Your feelings deserve to be heard, but discomfort alone is not yet enough reason to stop your child staying overnight at their father's home. Your ex-husband's new wife is not necessarily a threat to your child; many stepmothers care well for their husband's children. Ask yourself: is your worry about the child's safety and routine, or about the wound of the divorce that has not yet healed? If it is about the child, say so specifically, for example: ‘I agree, but please make sure he sleeps early and keeps up his prayers.’ Start with one night first. A custody order can set visiting times and reasonable conditions; if you cannot agree, ask the court or a sulh officer to help. If there are signs the child is being abused, call the police on 999 and Talian Kasih on 15999. See children in polygyny.