Is it true that the way I treat my spouse reflects how complete my faith is?

Yes, conduct towards one's spouse is among the most honest measures of a person's faith. The Prophet ﷺ said: “The most complete of the believers in faith are those best in character, and the best of you are those who are best to their wives” (Jami' at-Tirmidhi 1162). It is easy to look pious in the mosque or in front of people; the real test is patience and gentleness at home when you are tired and no one is watching. Make treating your family well part of your worship, not something separate from religion. Improve one daily trait as a sign of growing faith. See rights of husband and wife.

Sources

Jami' at-Tirmidhi 1162 (hasan sahih)

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This answer is general reference, not a fatwa. For your situation, consult the religious affairs office, a Syarie lawyer or your state Syariah Court.

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